Big Wedding, Small Budget

Blogging Anniversary

This weekend marked one year of blogging. A whole year spent blogging about this wedding. And I thought—what a strange thing. I mean, really, what a strange thing for a feminist, not-princessy, professional, educated woman to do. To spend a whole year of her life writing about her wedding. What does that say about me?

I think what it mostly says about me is that I like to write. And I have a lot of opinions to share. Neither of these should surprise anyone who knows me. And as I’ve written about before, the wedding isn’t the only thing I’ve had going on all year, but it is a big, important thing. Getting married is a huge transition, and a wedding is a huge project to plan, so I think it’s understandable that I have a lot to say about it. Unpacking the wedding-planning process has meant wrestling with feminism, identity, anxiety, consumerism, and of course, flowers. I’ve learned a lot about myself, my decision making process, my ability to compromise, and my ability to trust myself and listen to my inner voice. I’ve been proud of myself for being able to stand up to the WIC and the chorus of voices out there telling me what a wedding should be like (and what I should be like as a bride).

I could have done all of this processing without a blog. I could have done a lot of thinking on my own, talked about it with my closest friends. But it wouldn’t have been the same. Something about the writing process is special, and writing for something public really makes me think about what I want to say, as opposed to the brain dump that happens in my journal. I’ve always wanted to have a blog, but I never really thought I had enough to say. Writing two posts a week about the wedding for a year makes me realize that I could do it. And I’m already thinking about what I’ll do once the wedding is over.

So, what did this year in blogging look like? I’ve got the stats from 2012, which make up most of it. Let’s see:

  • In 2012, I had about 5900 views. As of today, this is already up to 6250!
  • My most popular post ever was about the wedding venue. I never thought so many people would be interested in that! Another top post was about (not) changing my name. That’s something I’m proud of since it’s an issue I’m super-passionate about.
  • Lots of people found my blog while searching for non-diamond engagement rings. I’m so glad to spread the word!
  • I had views from 42 countries! That is really amazing. We have an especially international circle of family and friends, but not that international.

I have been blown away by all the page views and comments (on the blog, Facebook, and in real life) that I’ve received since all this started. It has been really fun, and such a rewarding experience to get back to the practice of writing. I also love that my blog will serve as a pretty thorough record of our engagement.

Not only do I feel proud for being able to keep this up for a year, I feel inspired by the process. I’m so excited to share with you the last two months of wedding planning, and to see what comes next!

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Welcome to my new blogging effort, Big Wedding, Small Budget. As the title suggests, that’s what I’m trying to do. Throw a wedding for approximately 250 people on a budget that is less than half the average.

Some Q & A to explain what we’re doing here:

Q: Are you crazy?

A: I might just be. I guess we’ll find out as time goes on.

Q: Why a big wedding, then?

A: That’s a good one, especially when most wedding “wisdom” (I use that term loosely) tells you to cut the guest list when you’re trying to cut the budget. But the huge guest list is actually my top priority. I have a huge family, and my fiancé and I have a large circle of friends, and they are spread out literally around the world. The opportunity to share this with them and get everyone in the same place is too good to pass up. So, we’re taking it.

Q: Why a small budget?

A: There are many different reasons, but they all boil down to this: A wedding is one day. A big day, an important day, but still just a day. We don’t think we should spend more on a party than we did on our cars.

Q: How the hell are you going to make it happen?

A: Well, I’m not quite sure yet. We just got engaged and all we’ve planned so far is the date. Our basic strategy is to cut out a lot of the traditional “wedding stuff” that we don’t care about and don’t want to pay for. Look out for further posts on my wedding “vision” and philosophy.

Q: What can I expect from this blog?

A: Just like the wedding, it’s a work in progress. I’m planning to use this space to process my thoughts and feelings around wedding planning and resisting the WIC, while also playing with logistics and ideas. That way, my friends won’t start to send me to voicemail when I call!

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